. . . we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.62
With the realization and acceptance that I had played a part in the way my life had turned out came a dramatic change in my outlook. It was at this point that the A.A. program began to work for me. In the past I had always blamed others, either God or other people, for my circumstances. I never felt that I had a choice in altering my life. My decisions had been based on fear, pride, or ego. As a result, those decisions led me down a path of self-destruction. Today I try to allow my God to guide me on the road to sanity. I am responsible for my action–or inaction–whatever the consequences may be.
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This morning I was thinking about the relationship dynamics in resentments. One person wrongs another, or two persons wrong each other, or neither person wrongs the other they just think so. So there are two people involved and an interpretation of the circumstance. The resentment comes when I interpret the event. My interpretation can be changed when I ask God to reform my instincts, emotions, and/or perception. The circumstance does not get changed but my attitude does. Then I can make the right choices to move forward.
Perhaps the “position to be hurt” is my attitude.
When I stoped drinking,I stoped geting dwi’s-hum….when I stoped lighting people up,I stoped geting in to fights-hum,ect….when I started treating people how I want to be treated(with love,kindness and respect) I started making some really great friends-it all starts and ends with me-I am the cause of 99% of what happens in my life-if I don’t like it,I can change it ;~) god bless all. Jamey
“Gotcha”
No matter how I slice it Either I’m part of the problem or part of the solution.It’s amazing what principles before personalities can do for a situation. One drink is too many and a thousand is never enough. Once I pick up a drink or a drug, I activate my disease and awaken the monster. By then it’s too little too late. only death or jail will stop me.
Every day, I make a choice not to pick up. Lots of times I must flip the script to keep my sanity.But when I come correct to people, places and things and do the next right thing , life happens. I’ll be the first one to tell you, I’m the best at manipulation but the worst at dealing with reality.When I first arrived in AA I thought I was this wonderful guy or some kind of one man army.
Bring the body and the mind will follow!!
What great comments. All perfectly right ON! Thank you my AA friends.